Updated: Mar 24
There are certain seasons we go through in life that bring out and define our character.
Loss of a loved one
Loss of an unborn child
Loss of a job
A failed or tumultuous relationship or marriage
Unexpected health diagnosis
Dealing with or overcoming addiction
New business venture
Birth of a child
You insert your circumstance or situation there and I guarantee you can identify the trial, pressing, and character development that ensued during that season. My favorite scripture says:
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
As a Christian and human being, I find myself praising, rejoicing, questioning, and doubting God many times throughout the process. There are moments I am downright mad at God for what I think is His lack of response to my questions and demand for understanding. However, I believe if some of us got a preview of all the trials that are sure to come, we would quit before we fulfill the purposes God has destined for us. Not to mention the forfeiture of relationship building and lives we would touch along the way. On the other hand, if we saw the grand scheme of things, the glimmer of abundant blessings, we may in turn lazily breeze through life without effort; bypassing the need to build our tenacious and endurance muscles. In addition, we can also resort to going through life making comparisons, saying: "if I were him or her I would..." "I wish I had the strength s/he has/had..." "I only hope to accomplish as much as..." These are in fact killers of growth and development.
In my life and interactions with people I try to be as transparent as transparent comes, with a measure of "not putting all my business out there." Know what I'm saying?
I was talking to my mom about my third book I have neglected to work on for quite some time. And as if God, or the devil was listening, they decided "I'll give you some content." Within the last month I received news and experienced some things that knocked the wind out of me and sent me into a tailspin. Talk about absolute whirlwind! Not to say other people haven't experienced similar situations. But again, this is not a comparison. Keep in mind that what someone may endure and handle with great grace can cause another to stumble.
My mom and mother-in-law are two women I know who pray without ceasing! Their motherly intuitions are always on 1000%. At some point over the last month my mom called and had a 10 minute monologue...
(because I wasn't tryna hear it).
However, what I did grasp was her question-phrase: "open field or behind closed doors?." Not sure the message she intended to convey but what I took away was: How are you going to handle this season? Out in the open or behind closed doors? See, I believe we all have a measure of influence. Be it on our children, friends, colleagues, large scale or small. It took me a while to grasp the magnitude of this because when I'm going through a hard thing, most times I want to be left alone to handle it how I want to handle it. I don't want to be an example, a model, or a glimmer of hope for anyone. Nonetheless, with the revelation of my measure of influence, I chose to do both. I am going through this season both in open field and behind closed doors. I know there are times where I have to hunker down and seek God for myself. Shut out the noise and hear what He is saying to me. In these times he gives me the freedom to ask all the the questions:
But why God? Why me God? Wasn't there another way God? Couldn't you let this cup pass from me? What lesson do you want me to learn from this? What did I do wrong? What did I miss? What am I supposed to do now? Etc. etc.
He listens to me question, complain, throw a tantrum. And just like a parent or friend, full of patience, compassion, love, and grace, He picks me up and helps me get out of the pit, the valley, and sets me on my way to wholeness again. This is the same for you. I am no more special than you. He can indeed be that same type of companion to you.
Regardless of what we go through there will always be onlookers. I resolve to using my measure of influence to showcase the love and goodness of God. Be it through my mountain top or my valley experiences. Beloved, we were created to walk the path set out for us and us alone. We can not step into the shoes of another and expect to live their lives the way they would. What is your lesson to learn will be yours to learn, in due season, and due time. I am understanding the lessons I learn in my varying seasons provide me the sympathy, empathy, and compassion to meet others where they are. I am embracing that there is in fact a season and time for everything.
No matter what season you're in, I hope you can find the ability to bask in: the beauty of creation. The beauty and strength of who you are. The beauty of who He is. The victorious end that is yours through Him!
Until next time,
You can purchase my first book (a collection of poems and prose)
Second book is with the illustrator.
Third book is being written.
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